Mr. Vespa-Papaleo serves as Executive Director of the New Jersey Commission on Civil Rights. He is on the Executive Board of the GLBT Rights and Labor and Employment Law Sections of the New Jersey State Bar Association. In June 2007 he was elected Chairman of the New Jersey Civil Union Review Commission, following his work on amending state law to provide legal protections for sexual and gender minorities. Director Vespa-Papaleo is a member of the New Jersey State Bar Association, and the Lesbian and Gay Lawyers Association.

Born in Puerto La Cruz, Venezuela, Director Vespa-Papaleo became a naturalized citizen of the United States in 1988. A resident of Bergen County, New Jersey, Mr. Vespa-Papaleo and his husband were married in California in June 2008.

(more details about him on the Attorney General’s web site)

they should also respect the rights of others to think and feel differently. Forcing their opinions on others makes them the bigots.

Your last paragraph could also be argued in opposition (by just changing who “they” refers to), but that’s not really relevant to this article.

If you look at the political commentary on this from the same-sex marriage rights supporters, you’ll see that most of them aren’t agreeing with this verdict either. Andrew Sullivan has a few links to a couple more mainstream gay right supports (Dan Savage, etc.) and their blog entries.

I think that if you disregard the extreme views (of both sides) and look to those with respectable opinions (even if you disagree with their opinions) most will agree that this was not a victory for their rights.

If eHarmony would just go back to saying it’s a Christian dating web site, like it did before it became popular, then this could have been avoided. Other big dating web sites see this as an opportunity to increase user base and profits, so they support both hetro and homo orientations.